Mamas, ever had someone utter those words to you? And then proceed to advise you?
It’s happened to me a few times. They start out disguised as some sort of back-handed compliment. And then you hear the “but”.
I know that it’s not worth the energy used to point out that I’m not interested in unsolicited advice… especially from someone who admittedly ‘just can not relate,’ or ‘could never imagine what I go through’. I mean, ???
Voluntary supplies of unhelpful advice immediately after recusing themselves. I think it’s really weird.
Like they don’t know the meaning of the words that they speak. And they are just spewing them about.
I do try to ask myself – is it true? Is it necessary? Will it hurt someone?(dale carnegie) and therefore generally remain silent. But truly, I ask you, what patient, peaceful, response isn’t condescending?